I was having a disturbing conversation with some ladies and they started to discuss how their daughters,friends daughters and other little girls they know gets hit on daily by much older men. I was disgusted when one lady said her friends daughter who was 17 was dating a 32 year old man. Is this the new trend? This is not the first i am hearing of this and i really for the life of me cant understand can someone please tell me what this is about, What does a grown man or woman see in a little girl or boy?

Question Of The Day Is

In your opinion, Name some of the negative factors of why most marriages fail,
considering that 4 out of 5 marriages fail with the 1st 5 years

A few months ago frustrated with my relationship status, I found my self blurting out these words . . .

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“There are no good men left. They’re either married, gay, or in jail.”

Sound familiar? Well if it does, then that’s because you’ve been exposed to a
common relationship virus called misconception. And believe it or not, it’s infecting
more and more women with each passing day.

Something has to be done…

In my experience, the only way to counteract someone’s exposure to this type of
virus is to get them to understand the other factors that can contribute to their difficulty
in finding Mr. Right. So for the next two weeks, I’ll describe in detail some of the
various behavior patterns that can block a woman from experiencing love on a
deeper level. So pay close attention, as this may help you more than a Terrence
and Rocsi intervention.

1. Ms. Dependable

The Symptoms:

You are the epitome of what it means to be a great family member and friend.
In fact, it’s almost scary how you always seem to be there for others. This makes
it hard for loved ones to understand why you aren’t in a steady relationship, as they
consider you to be a great catch.

Here’s the problem though: when you do find someone, one of two things happens.
Either he falls madly in love with you, and you just don’t feel the same connection;
or you fall for him, and he only wants to be your friend, ignoring you more than
Mike Tyson ignored middle school … and high school for that matter. To further
complicate your situation, you often have trouble letting go of past loves; even
when it’s painfully obvious that it will never work.

Is this you? Ask Yourself:

Do you find it extremely difficult to let go of past relationships?

Do you sometimes think that you’ve already missed out on your one chance at true love?

Do you have trouble being physically and sexually attracted to a man that meets all
of your emotional needs?

Do your friends and family come to you when they are having problems?

Do you put the needs of others before your own needs?

Here’s What You Should Do:

It’s time for you to do like the song says, and “shout, shout, let it all out.” Until you
deal with the emotions from your past relationships, you’ll never be able to fully
move on to something new. Oh, and while you’re at it, take a break from being the
go-to person for your loved ones. That can also get in the way of your own healing process.

2. Ms. Try, Try Again

The Symptoms:

You are the life of the party. If something cool is going down, you’ll be there.
For you, dating has always been about as easy as Paris Hilton on a Tuesday…or
any day for that matter. Men are naturally attracted to your energy and confidence.
The only thing that’s missing is your ability to have a sustained relationship. It’s not
from a lack of trying though. In fact, when you do get into a relationship, you are
never the one to break it off—that’s how bad you want to make the relationship work.
Even if it means settling for something that doesn’t really make you happy.

Is This You? Ask Yourself:

Do you find yourself always dating people, but never truly finding a relationship that lasts?

Will you drop what you’re doing just to go out on a date?

Is it hard for you to just relax and do nothing?

Do you find yourself trying to be everything that he wants in a girlfriend?

Do you find yourself waiting for him to break up with you, even when you know that
it’s not going to work?

Can you honestly say that you know what makes you happy?

Here’s What You Should Do:

As difficult as this may sound, you need to take a break from dating. Just cool out
for a while, and start learning how to be comfortable in your own skin. This will help
break the mindset that you have to date at a breakneck pace in order to find someone
special; which is almost as bad as having a “private” on camera conversation with Jesse Jackson.

Once you’re able to break that habit, you’ll start to notice a change in the quality of
the men that you date. You’ll also find that you are now more willing to be your
own person, instead of a dating chameleon, i.e. someone who changes to fit the
personality of the other person.

3. Ms. Globetrotter

The Symptoms:

Why is it so hard to convince you to stay in one place? Instead of enjoying the
sustained love that’s provided by one person, you live a nomadic life, wandering
from relationship to relationship. You have the type of personality that makes you
very lovable, and men find themselves falling in love with you very easily. But no
matter how well they treat you, something inside of you just doesn’t allow you to be faithful.

Is This You? Ask Yourself:

Is it hard for you to stay faithful to someone, even when you truly love them?

As soon as one relationship ends, do you jump right into the next one?

Do you feel uneasy when you aren’t in a relationship, but then when you do
get into a serious one, you start to feel trapped?

Are you often down on yourself, and constantly seek reassurance from others?

Do you feel like you’re never content no matter what you do?

Here’s What You Should Do:

The first step is to learn how to love yourself. Perhaps the main factor that has caused
you to become “Ms. Globetrotter,” is that you haven’t fully learned how to appreciate
how wonderful you are. This in turn causes you to go out and actively seek love from
as many people as possible in an effort to validate yourself.

Once you’re able to learn how to love and honor yourself, you’ll find it a lot easier to
accept the fact that you are fine with or without a man. You’ll also begin to have a higher
sense of self, which will stop you from returning to your old habit of sabotaging your
relationships.

The Fly Conclusion:

So that concludes Part One of my “All The Good Men Aren’t Taken” series. Now it’s
time for me to hear from you. Make sure you take the time to share with me your
thoughts on this week’s topic. Don’t miss next week’s edition, as I reveal the rest of my list.

Before you point fingers and talk shit . . . "Look at ya own house and see how dirty it is" ~Whoopi Goldberg

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The time has come for me to complete my two-part “All The Good Men Aren’t Taken” series.
In case youmissed it, last week I began to dispel the widespread myth that single
black women currently have no viable dating options. Now while there are certainly
some valid points to such an argument, a lack of men isn’t the singular reason that
prevents some women from finding Mr. Right. Now I’ve already revealed three
common behavior patterns that may contribute to a single woman’s plight;
it’s time for me to share the final three.

1. Ms. Captain Save-A-Man

The Symptoms:

Simply put, you have a heart of gold. Whether it’s friends, family or coworkers,
no one ever questions your dependability. But such a positive trait seems to get
in the way when choosing a mate. For some reason, you seem to have a bad habit
of falling for needy men who don’t have it together. (Note: Needy men may include
Bobby Brown, former D.C. Mayor Marion Berry, and the soon to be unemployed Rick Ross.)

Is This You? Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of falling for guys that “need” you either emotionally, physically,
financially…or some combination of all three?

Is it hard for you to say no to your man?

Do you feel guilty if at any point you do something that makes him unhappy?

Do you always find yourself constantly making excuses for your boyfriend’s short-comings?

Do you give more in your relationship than you receive?

Here’s What You Should Do:

Stop allowing your kindness to be taken advantage of. There are some men that
prey on women who allow them to be weak, lazy, and unaccountable for their actions.
(I believe the medical term for such a condition is Kevin Federline Syndrome.)

This type of “man,” and I use that term loosely, has absolutely no place in your life.
But you have to make certain changes to ensure you are no longer attracting his type.
So practice being assertive; practice saying no; and practice demanding the respect
that you deserve within your relationship.

2. Ms. High Life

The Symptoms:

Before I begin, let me just say, that I’m not necessarily calling you superficial …
well not exactly. It’s just that you’ve always placed an extra emphasis on the so
called “finer” things in life. And while there’s nothing wrong with wanting to look
and feel your best, your happiness has always seemed to be dictated by
how you physically look. On top of that, when it comes to dating, there have been
plenty of men that are ready to emotionally give you the world … but you weren’t
interested unless they were able to buy you the world as well.

Is This You? Ask Yourself:

Do you only date men who possess a considerable amount of money or power?

Do find yourself always trying to keep up with other women, because you want to be as physically attractive as they are?

Do you only feel good about yourself when you are receiving compliments from others?

Do you equate how much a man loves you by how much he buys you?

Do you think that getting old or gaining weight will make you lose your man?

Here’s What You Should Do:

No one wants to live like James and Florida Evans, struggling through temporary
layoffs and easy credit rip offs. But while financial struggles are certainly not ideal,
neither is basing your happiness solely on monetary wealth and physical beauty.
The material things in life will eventually fade away, but true love endures through all.
So your first step is to reconnect with your inner beauty; that’s the part of you
that understands that no matter what you have, what you weigh, or how old you
become, you’re still worthy of being loved unconditionally.

3. Ms. Forbidden Fruit Lover

The Symptoms:

Perhaps this is a defense mechanism so you won’t have to commit, but lately
you’ve developed a pattern of dating men who are emotionally unavailable.
They’re either married, dating someone else, or just getting over a break up.
The astonishing part is that you don’t even realize what you’re doing, and
continue to engage in this pattern as if it’s perfectly normal.
(This all sounds eerily similar to our current president’s political philosophy…
Irrational thinking + A refusal to change = Terrible results)

Is This You? Ask Yourself:

Do you have a habit of being attracted to men that are either married, seriously involved with someone else, or just getting over a breakup?

Do you get mad at yourself for constantly dealing with men who end up being unavailable?

Do you often reject the “good guys,” even when it’s obvious that they aren’t seeing anyone else?

Are you quick to believe a man when he tells you that he is over his ex?

Here’s What You Should Do:

You have to stop engaging in relationships that have no clear endgame. No
matter what a man may tell you, if he’s involved with someone else, there’s
only so far that your relationship can go. So stop fooling yourself into believing
that something more meaningful is on the horizon between the two of you. In you
continue down this path, you’ll just end up disappointed, disheartened,
and embittered—which are three emotions that shouldn’t be on anyone’s wish list.

The Fly Conclusion: Now that we’ve come to the end of our series, it’s time for
me to hear from you. Do any of these six types of women sound familiar?
Now before the hate mail begins, this in no way absolves us men from
needing to step to you correctly. But no one can win if neither side is willing
to take an honest look in the mirror to see if there’s any room for personal improvement.
I’m willing to work on me … are you?

Back home from vacation in fl in the car one the way back to the house i saw 2 couples kissing under the comfort of 2 umbrellas b4 the light changed i snapped this shot and then we drove off They had to be 14 years old it was so cute reminded me of the GOOD old days when love didnt spoil me so much Meaning when loves trials and tribulations hadnt ruined my perception of "it"

Question Of The Day is

What would you do if you found out your significant other was Gay or Bi-sexual
& you have a family together ?