Question Of The Day IsWhy are so many black women infatuated w/ finding their so called "black king"
in order to start a meaningful relationship and or family?
What is the preconceived notion about this way of thinking?
Gambino's QOTD 8.7.08
August 7, 2008, 9:40 am Question Of The Day IsWhy are so many black women infatuated w/ finding their so called "black king"
in order to start a meaningful relationship and or family?
What is the preconceived notion about this way of thinking?
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Women are looking for someone to grow with. That somebody they can lean on and he will be their rock. Support them through it all. A family man, her KING. A man through her eyes he is remarkable, astonishing, and who will without a doubt never let her down. (my opinion)
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We search for a King to be the head of the family or relationship. Being with a King means we (and I'm not being shallow and definitely not gold digging) but we live better, dress better, drive better, eat better. He has his stuff together physically and emotionally. A king can trust and can be trusted. He's on the forefront and is the backbone of the family. He will support his queen in all her undertakings with encouragement, not jealousy and insecurity.
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There definition of "King" is of too high of expectations.
They want Jay-z, Boris Kujo, a Jail bird and Barack Obama in one.
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They want Jay-z, Boris Kujo, a Jail bird and Barack Obama in one.
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theres nothing wrong in finding our black king if you read wille lynch he gave speeches to masters during slavery to breakdown a black family ...when he gave the speech to break down a black female.... the 1st thing he said was to make the black women feel that she does not need a black man.....its crazy but its true ....
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let me school you "sister". He also brainwashed you to not to be satisfied with a good brother either. Thats why black women cant find a good black "king" with microscope. Your definition of a black king is tainted. Thats why yall end up not finding them. So whats your definition of a black king?
We got nothing but fake Queens out there.
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We got nothing but fake Queens out there.
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Before we get into Mr. Lynch! I just think black women r not aggresive enough! My best friend goes " I need to find a man to settle down with", yet she stays quiet and expects someone to approach her! Yes I carry the same traits but know I must break out of that when I'm ready to settle down. men of other races approach me they always ask "Why r u so shy"? Because of how we r taught, much differently from most races to take our time, 3 month rule... Reserved for a king (when I'm ready), but when I want to settle down I will aggresively go out and get it! AND NOT IN NO ONES CLUB!!!
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Why are so many black women infatuated w/ finding their so called "black king" in order to start a meaningful relationship and or family?
What is the preconceived notion about this way of thinking?
I had to restate the question in order to stay on topic:
The most obvious preconcieved notion is that you have to have a man in order to have a relationship and thus build a family. As other's have stated, we are taught that we are Kings and Queens in the black community and I can appreciate that. It gives us a sense of pride as a people in a nation where we were miseducated about our heritage.
The other preconcieved notion in the original question suggests that our "King" has to be black.
I don't believe that this isn't necessarily so, families begin when two PEOPLE fall in love. Love is universial and there is so much that men of other races have to offer to black women if we step outside of our comfort zone and simply love and allow ourselves to be loved by men of other races and nationalities.
As women have to develop standards for ourselves and those standards should not exclude us from entering into meaningful relationships with men outside of our race.
On another note, infatuation is a strong word. I would say that women desire to be in engaging relationships with men who love us, adore us and honor us. To suggest that we get this sort of fulfillment from our "king" implies that we are royalty and so we want to be treated as such.
Good, thought provoking question, this is type of dialog/forum that we need in the Black community. Please keep them coming.
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What is the preconceived notion about this way of thinking?
I had to restate the question in order to stay on topic:
The most obvious preconcieved notion is that you have to have a man in order to have a relationship and thus build a family. As other's have stated, we are taught that we are Kings and Queens in the black community and I can appreciate that. It gives us a sense of pride as a people in a nation where we were miseducated about our heritage.
The other preconcieved notion in the original question suggests that our "King" has to be black.
I don't believe that this isn't necessarily so, families begin when two PEOPLE fall in love. Love is universial and there is so much that men of other races have to offer to black women if we step outside of our comfort zone and simply love and allow ourselves to be loved by men of other races and nationalities.
As women have to develop standards for ourselves and those standards should not exclude us from entering into meaningful relationships with men outside of our race.
On another note, infatuation is a strong word. I would say that women desire to be in engaging relationships with men who love us, adore us and honor us. To suggest that we get this sort of fulfillment from our "king" implies that we are royalty and so we want to be treated as such.
Good, thought provoking question, this is type of dialog/forum that we need in the Black community. Please keep them coming.
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on August 7, 2008, 9:51 am
i think the idea is that you have found someone who meets your royalty needs. what i mean is that we have always been told that we come from kings and queens. since we are supposed to be queens it is only right to look for your king!
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